Mom-guilt is something I’ve struggled with from the moment I found out I was pregnant. Can I provide her with the same life I’ve been awarded? Can I make her proud? What if I can’t provide her with enough milk? How can I provide her with the most nutritious diet as possible? How can I protect her from all the evil in the world? I could go on and on with this list but I’ll spare you the rest. It’s been a long journey and I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that I still have my moments, but I’m finally at a point where I can keep these thoughts from spiraling out of control. For me, there’s no other way to do so other than turning to the Word and writing His words and thoughts on my heart. By making His thoughts greater than my thoughts, I leave no room for my own voice or the voices of the world to take over. So I love to meditate on these 11 bible verses to shut down mom-guilt.
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So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.
When addressing my feelings, I always like to ask myself what are those feelings rooted in? Are those feelings of God or something else manifesting from bad seeds? Usually, when I’m dealing with mom-guilt I’m also dealing with feelings of shame and shame isn’t a feeling ever placed on you by God.
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We destroy every proud obstacle that keeps people from knowing God. We capture their rebellious thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
Like I mentioned above, it’s important we recognize feelings that are of God and feelings that aren’t. Because if it’s a feeling that isn’t, it poses a threat of being a stumbling block for God’s will over our life. So, as a result, we have to capture those thoughts and teach them to obey Christ.
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For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.
And I will forgive their wickedness, and I will never again remember their sins.
If your guilt is rooted in sin, once you repent, it’s essential you remember that you are seen whole and righteous in His eyes. To piggy-back off of Romans 8:1, there’s no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus. Start looking at yourself the way HE sees you. More importantly, shut down that mom-guilt that’s dwelling on anything you’ve moved on from.
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Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.
If your guilt is placed from the perception of the world and those around you, let it go! Overall it’s not our job to please the world, only Him. At times you have to ask yourself: are your actions disappointing Him, or just your friends from social media? It is so easy for mom-guilt to be rooted in comparing yourself to others. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy!
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You didn’t choose me. I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce lasting fruit, so that the Father will give you whatever you ask for, using my name.
Never doubt your role in your child’s life. Stay in Him because in Him you’ll bear fruit. He chose YOU to produce the fruit associated with motherhood. YOU were built for this!
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You saw me before I was born. Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed. How precious are your thoughts about me, O God? They cannot be numbered!
I’ve often used this verse to reflect on God’s love for me, but lately, I’ve been using this verse as a sweet reminder that Raelynn was God’s before she was mine. He’s known and loved her before I knew her. The same love and grace He extends to me, He extends to her. I’m not solely responsible for her because where I lack He covers her with His grace and love.
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Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek His will in all you do, and He will show you which path to take.
While you are weak, overwhelmed, and frustrated, seek Him. Believing in Him is more substantial than believing in ourselves.
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That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
When I am weak, through Him I am strong. Don’t think of your “guilt” as a burden rather allow it to be an opportunity to show our babies that His power conquers all.
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Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
The world can’t set the standard of what a godly mama looks like, only He can. So walk confidently in your role as a mama even if it doesn’t look “traditional”.
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Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way, It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged, It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
God is love and He sets the standard of love. So we should allow His love to be an example of how we love our spouse, our babies, friends, and loved ones. Love endures through every circumstance ?.
XO
Michelle
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